he's so horrid to me.....please believe me when i say i've tried...tried SO hard to find some kind of common ground....but alas, to no avail.....i find it so wearing to the spirit...i want us all to be happy...i try to encourage him when he tries to be nice and then he just turns on me !...i really wouldn't know which way to turn if i didn't have sober reliable people like you on the forum to buck me up every so often...it's appreciated very much.